"There is something about Mary"
The Casa Bianca where I grew up was a
wonderful place if you liked great food, lots of aunts, uncles and cousins and
plenty of drama! It was reality TV without the TV. It was truly extended family
living in-house, as a result, there was always somebody in crisis. Growing up in
our house there was Uncle Peter, Uncle Gigi, Aunt Esther, Aunt Teresa, Mama
Lee, my brother and me. Then there was the staff at the restaurant; Anna and
Pauline two polish sisters who worked in
the kitchen for twenty plus years with my mother. They were like family but
then there was Mary.
Well that group was truly old school; they saw
the world different, they ate different, they didn't value their time, it was
their gift to everyone. We were the first group of children to really protest
the old ways. I was relieved when we broke from the tradition of waking the
recently passed in the living room of our home. The Italian women were professional mourners
it was epic when we said goodbye.
Mother was a tough cookie with a mind of her
own, it is well documented her distrust for almost everybody; doctors, lawyers,
bankers even the catholic priests that frequently dined with her. She was translucent
about her feelings.. I find myself from time to time invoking the same skepticism,
distrust fostered by our mother. Is it inherited? I catch myself and think that's
Mom talking. The very same response from her used to make my skin crawl.
That being said Lee had a heart of gold, if you were hungry she would feed you, her true passion in life, if you needed a room because you may have had one too many she put many guests to bed in our 10 upstairs bedrooms over the years. Her life was built from the sacrifice she made for her children, her brother and her sister. She was what is all good in people.
Mother was stubborn, I hear the story that the
night I was born mother was on the stove cooking when her water broke. Her
cousin and OBGYN Dr. Bove was just finishing dinner in the dining room and he
was alerted of the situation. He got up and went to the kitchen. Lets go Lee, "Doc
you just sit yourself down until I put out the rest of these dinners"! He
had no choice. My mother only left the building under duress or to go to the
hair dresser. My brother would have to take her and pick her up she hardly ever
drove but claimed she was an accomplished wheel woman. My brother was late
picking her up one day and she hated to spend any more time than necessary
listening to the women at the parlor. Angry with Peter the next day she bought
a car, maybe she drove it twice.
Lee was kind, and loving but mean as a junk
yard dog when she was riled. She was plum impossible to reason with if she had
made up her mind. Thankfully there was Mary she subscribed to a whole different
perspective about most everything. She would say Lee "let them be" Lee
was a control freak. Mary somehow could see into the future, she was like
having our own palm reader. For instance she would always maintain that she
could tell when a girl who my brother brought to dinner was crazy about him. Oh
yah I can tell she would say "she's crazy about him". Generally she
was wrong on this account!
Mary was always there to be the voice of
reason and was about the only person who could tell my mother to chill! Mary
worked at the restaurant full time from her late twenties and on into her
sixties. She spent a lifetime with us. I think her 5 children gave her a better
view into the real world and she at least left her house!
Mary had a way with the guests at the
restaurant all those years, many people thought she owned the place. We didn't
advertise so all of our business was word of mouth, Mary was social media old
school style, she communicated with our guests face to face. If you were sent to
the Casa via word of mouth, it was normal for people to show up at the front
door on their first visit and ask for Mary. They would say 'so and so sent me'
and Mary in one smooth movement would acknowledge the sender and give them a
hug at the door and sit them on the stairs to wait for a table. She owned them
right out of the gate even if she had no idea who the people might have been
who sent them.
It was rare that we didn't sit at the round
table in the back room at some point each night and discuss the overall
problems of the group. (The table now in my kitchen) Mary had five children and
they are, each of them extremely diverse. It seems like she had one of each,
kind of her own Gilligan's Island. The oldest was somewhat like Thurston a
business man, then a jet setting movie star type, beautiful, sultry and a hand
full like Ginger, there is the professor, ethereal, musical, clever and quietly
a real ladies man, the little sister like Maryann beautiful but more reserve
and a bit less precocious no flying about, a bit more grounded than her older
sister. Then came the restaurant guy who would if allowed have been the "Skipper"
he inherited his mothers engaging personality.
There was always an issue with one of them, or
the favorite topic, my brother. Somehow the madness of it all gave Mary a sense
of decorum and just made her stronger. Mary could shift through the BS of most
situations and leave you with an answer that would satisfy the group. As a
result her children are all fiercely dedicated to her, she is still the glue
that holds them all together.
People still like to talk about the Casa
Bianca, fond memories for most. I always hear "I loved your mother" and then they ask me about Mary. We talk once
in a while... not enough, she is still putting out the fires alongside her
children, still the rock she always was. I just answer "There is something
about Mary"
This is a dish my brother named after Mary at
the Casa in 1982. It became our best seller and was on the menu until the end. Use the stove or your new Saber Grill from Proctor Gas.
Veal or Chicken Maria
Serves 4
4 chicken breast
4 paper thin slices prosciutto4 slices eggplant cut lengthwise/ brush with olive oil and S&P grill on both sides
8 thin slices of fresh mozzarella
flour for dusting the chicken
4 tablespoons good basil pesto
1 cup marinara sauce
1/2 cup white wine
1/2 cup chicken stock
1/2 stick cold butter cut in small pieces
olive oil to pan sear the chicken
Take the cover off and build the chicken
breast:
spread a spoon full of pesto sauce over the top
of the chickenplace a slice of prosciutto over that
place the grilled eggplant on top of the breast
place the two pieces of cheese on top
Place the lid back on the pan and let it
simmer just to get hot and melt the cheese. Remove the chicken from the pan,
dish it up...turn the heat to medium and add the cold butter to the sauce and
simmer together, pour over the chicken
Mrs. Tom's Secret
I like to use my gas grill to cook this. It
does take a pan on the grill but you use the grill same as a stove and the
grill lid acts as a cover, just close it. Also be aware for your guests, that
there are no nut allergies in the group. The little spoon of pesto to the wrong
person can be a real bummer for all. Serve with a nice wild mushroom risotto.